High-Impact Habits create a Brilliant Future
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Simon T. Bailey
As human beings we become conditioned to behave a certain way by repetition.
To change a particular behavior, you have to reprogram or rewire the brain by repeating a new, different behavior over and over and over again until new synapses are created.
Eventually, if the new behavior is repeated often enough and long enough, you begin to see results. Although it’s been said that it only takes 30 days of repeated behavior to develop a habit, research indicates that it actually takes at least three to six months to create a solid habit.
You will know you’ve successfully developed new behaviors when other people start noticing the change in you. One of the most crucial things you can do to improve your life is to develop high-impact habits.
These are the behaviors and actions that will move you farthest and fastest in the direction of your heart’s desire.
High-impact activities accelerate the process of opening the vault and releasing your brilliance.
Low-impact activities, on the other hand, drain your energy, your enthusiasm, and your efforts, and prevent you from maximizing your brilliance.
Develop a habit of being a steward of your time and energy. What you do with these two resources will determine the outcome of your life. Time is the most precious asset on the planet, and yet you tend to let it slip away on activities that don’t move you forward.
How much time do you spend watching TV, answering email, responding to texts, instant messages and surfing the Internet? I’ll be the first to admit that I waste way too much time on these things alone. I remind myself daily that if I’m going to reach my financial and life goals, I can’t let these low-impact activities consume my day.
To help get control of the time develop a new habit or only checking your email only twice a day. Create two time blocks – one in the morning and one in the afternoon – to answer all your emails. You’ll be astounded at the amount of time you’ll free up for the crucial high-impact activities.
One of the best habits I developed grew out of those extra 15 minutes I found each morning, and it’s literally transformed my life. I suggest you give it a try: Create a habit of guarding your energy and protecting your spirit with your own personal Hour of Power every morning – 20 minutes of meditation, 20 minutes of exercise, and 20 minutes of reading out loud.
Meditation focuses your energy and intention on how your brilliant day will unfold.
Exercising invigorates your body and creates energy and momentum for your entire day. Reading focuses your mind. We live in an electronic world that moves at light speed. We have instant access to virtually any kind of information. Unfortunately, that’s created in us an attention deficit, and we’ve forgotten how to focus our minds. Reading out loud not only keeps you focused, but also expands your vocabulary, increases your confidence, and allows you to interact with the author’s message.
Aristotle said, “It is well to be up before daybreak, for such habits contribute to health, wealth, and wisdom.” When you focus on the high-impact activities in your life and commit to making each of them a habit, your brilliance will shine like never before.
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The Easy Way to Confidence
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Deborah Ivanoff
Most people think that confidence comes when you experience some level of success on the outside. And while that may be true, for building a competence in some aspect of ourselves or skillset we practice certainly can lead to confidence, the alternative can be true as well.
(Perceived) failure at any one skill can have you experiencing doubt and fear which undermines confidence.
But what few people realize is that confidence really has much less to do with what has happened or we have pproven in the past and what we think or remember in the present.
What do Gamblers Have to Do With Confidence?
I’ll be going into this in more depth on the telecall, but here’s the snapshot. It’s all about what we (think) we remember. A research project with gamblers found that when gamblers are on a winning streak, they are not thinking about losing (that seems kind of obvious, right).
Not so obvious is what they found out about gamblers on a losing streak; they can’t remember ever winning! For them in that losing streak, memories of winning just aren’t available at that time.
Remind You of Anyone? It Does Me!
Haven’t you ever experienced a time when you just felt lost, you couldn’t remember a single thing you’d done well or right? Maybe you couldn’t remember a time when you felt good about yourself or your abilities?
I know I’ve had this happen to me.
So How Can You Use This To Your Advantage?
Right now, you can find a quiet space, either on the outside, or create it for yourself on the inside and ask, “when was the last time I felt good about things”?
Remember that time. Begin to see and remember and feel the details. What was going on? Who was there? What were you doing? What was it like?
Take a breath and notice, did you just experience a little shift? You like it?
The Full Experience
Great! You just shifted your level of confidence and it was easy, with no need to “push” or “effort” involved. Now you can tackle what’s next on your plate from a new level of confidence and it all came from you! It can be that easy and that gentle.
Sometimes the shift can be greater when you are in the presence of others who hold that bigger space for you. I hope you’ll come join us, pen and paper in hand and let me guide you through the full experience. Carolyn will be on hand to offer even more help with the body wisdom components of this. You’re sure to have a good time and find yourself feeling lots more confident in an easy and gentle way, no “pump you up” involved!
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10 Simple and Free Ways to Let Go of Stress
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Doug Foresta
Here is a list of ideas for FREE ways to relax:
- Light Exercise A great way to relax is getting some light exercise. This can mean going for a walk around the neighborhood or playing a low impact sport. Exercise has been known to help the body relax and engaging in non-intense exercise will help your mind to unwind as well.
- Meditation Taking up meditation is one of the most relaxing activities you can engage in for free. All you need to do is sit in silence and focus on your breath.When negative thoughts arise, acknowledge them, and then let them go. Try doing this for 30 minutes each day.
- Take a Nap Babies and toddlers aren’t the only ones that can benefit from a nap! You may even feel relaxed and rejuvenated after a simple 15-minute snooze. You don’t even need to completely fall asleep to enjoy this activity.
- Shoot the Breeze Go to a friend’s house or talk to a friend on the phone. Chances are you have one of those friends that you can chat with as if no time has gone by since you last talked. Old friends usually provide great opportunities to talk about the good old days.
- Listen to Music Grab the MP3 player and lay down with some great tunes. Pick out a group of songs that you find especially relaxing. Classical and other light songs usually work best.
- Read a Book Go check out a new book from the local library and start reading. It may even be a fun activity to read one of your favorite books over again.
- Take a Hot Bath Take a hot bath or shower. If you’re taking a bath, add in bubble bath soap, play some classical music, and remember to turn off your phone ringer. This is a simple way to have some peaceful time just for you.
- Look at Old Photos Bring out some old photos from your childhood or the photos from a fun trip you took. Remembering some of your treasured moments through photographs will make you smile and relax for sure.
- Play Board Games When was the last time you played your favorite board game? Dust off the old Monopoly or Scrabble, prepare some snacks, and play a few games with your family. It’ll be fun for all!
- Daydream... Allow your mind to wander and dream Escape to where you’d like to travel one day. Think about what your life will be like in the next 5, 10, or 15 years and write these thoughts down in a journal for you to read later
These are just 10 simple ideas when it comes to relaxing the zero cost way. Stay creative and remember that it’s okay to waste time every now and then. You can either hang around doing some self-reflection, or you can hang out with friends or family, whatever it is, do something fun!
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5 Tips to Banish Negative Self-Talk
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Lynne Goldberg
“You are braver than you believe, smarter than you seem, and stronger than you think.” – Winnie the Pooh
I opened my first company after I lost my job. I had no experience running a business, I had young children, and I was definitely underfinanced.
I had tried—unsuccessfully—to find a comparable job and decided I would have to create one instead. Luckily, I was too naïve to know what I didn’t know.
I approached knowledgeable business people about my idea. Although they thought it sounded promising, they weren’t really interested in helping me until I had revenue. So, I had to get revenue!
I had never manufactured overseas, but with orders to fill and no infrastructure, I had to make it happen, so I did.
Each time I got an order, filled it and shipped it, I learned a little more. Along the way, I found people who could inform and educate me.
There were certainly people who were smarter, more experienced and more successful, but they had jobs. I didn’t.
How often do we hold ourselves back with our limiting beliefs? Our self-talk tells us that we aren’t smart enough, strong enough, good enough.
What can we do to banish those inner voices so that we can live out our dreams?
Here are 5 ways:
1. Evaluate the situation.
Just because you haven’t done something before doesn’t mean you can’t do it now.
Although I hadn’t manufactured overseas, I had years of experience importing. Many of the same skills were used for both, so I just had to learn how to be a little more creative.
Evaluate your skill set and see if this is an opportunity to try something a new way.
2. Practice makes perfect.
Bill Gates didn’t start off as a CEO; he learned along the way as he climbed the ladder.
Recognize that you don’t have to start off perfect; you just have to be open to learn from new experiences as they happen.
3. Observe your negative thoughts.
Our thoughts become our reality (seriously). So if you tell yourself you can’t do something, chances are, you won’t. Don’t let your self-limiting or negative thoughts keep you stuck!
Watch the stories you tell yourself. Would you talk to a friend that way? If the answer is no, then why would you do it to yourself?
Try this: wear an elastic band on your wrist. When you find yourself going down that negative-Nancy road, snap the elastic to bring your attention back to the positive. You can change the dialogue.
4. Surround yourself with positive people.
I was lucky enough to have lots of people around me that supported me and believed in my skills and abilities. I was able to get advice, share concerns and find solutions.
Relationships matter. A lot. Often they are the reality check that we need to keep going when the going gets tough. And even when the going doesn’t get tough—isn’t it that much sweeter to enjoy each day with loved ones by your side?
5. Practice Self Care.
Things seem that much more overwhelming when you are tired and burned out. You need to stick this out for the long haul
Make sure to eat right, get enough ZZZ’s and exercise regularly. You don’t need to run 5 miles a day or train for a triathlon.
A simple walk around the neighborhood or a 10-minute yoga session is better than nothing. And for some, that’s even better than running 5 miles a day or training for a race. If you’re exhausted from working so much, that’s the last thing you should be doing. Focus on restoring and rejuvenating, not working yourself into the ground physically as well as mentally.
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Helicopter Parents Not Allowed: Monitoring Teens’ Online Activity
Guest post from Learn It Live Expert, Sarah Newton's Blog
Cyberbullying, cyberstalking and online predators are major threats to the Internet-enabled generation of children. According to BullyingStatistics.org, 50 percent of teens have been cyberbullied in one form or another.
As a natural reaction, you want to limit your teen’s Internet use as protection. Nothing incites teen rebellion faster than online restrictions and parental monitoring. There must be a compromise between your teen’s growing need for online privacy and keeping them safe. Avoid the massive confrontation and keep the peace with the following tips:
Discrete Monitoring Tools
Discrete monitoring tools that run in the background of your operating system, named innocuous sounding files, can help you keep an eye on your teen’s online activity. You can access information, including copies of chat logs and other Internet behavior. CNN reports 70 percent of teens hide their online activity from their parents. Teens may just want privacy, but other reasons for secretive activity may be more malicious in nature. Whether your gut’s telling you your teen is abusing the Internet or you suspect your child’s a victim (or perpetrator) of cyberbullying, start monitoring.
Instead of monitoring chat logs on laptops directly, control the websites your teen visits. Don’t use parental blocking through the browsers or common software because these tend to be easily identified and cause confrontation. Instead, block problematic websites through the host files. Although it’s a technical solution that requires computer savviness, it’s a free, effective and easy way for site blocking.
TechRepublic.com gives a quick overview on blocking sites through the host files if you use a Windows-operated computer.The host file maps IP addresses into readable names. Usually, it is handled with a domain name server, or DNS, but with a host file you can bypass the server. Follow Tech Republic’s step-by-step tutorial to do this on your computer.
Noticeable changes in behavior can be a reflection of what a teen is experiencing online. If your teen is experiencing cyberbullying from peers at school, he or she will show signs of being withdrawn, reclusive or combative. Emotional, even physical, changes in behavior can be a result of problematic activities taking place on Facebook, for example. Create a supportive and communicative home environment. Rather than “spying” on your kids, encourage an open and honest forum about the Internet to build trust.
Your teen will appreciate it if you treat them with respect and trust. If you see any change in his or her behavior, invite an open dialogue without forcing it. Show support and no judgement. If your child does open up about a problem, instead of instinctively going into protective mode and calling parents and teachers, discuss with your teen what possible solutions could be reached together.
Teaching kids about best practices for online usage will help them gain the education for independently making right and wrong decisions. Talk to them about the dangers of meeting strangers online, how to avoid giving out personal identification information and when to report someone who they feel is a cyberbully, cyberstalker or online predator.
Randi is a mom and grade school teacher who blogs about parenting, the environment and green living.
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How to Get the Most from Affirmations
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Doug Foresta
You’ve probably seen affirmations in books or online and perhaps even tried repeating them for a few days without seeing much in the way of improvements in your life. Wouldn’t it be great if you could experience more positive personal changes from affirmations?
Making affirmations work for you starts with a clear understanding of what they are:
An affirmation is a positive statement written as if you are saying it, and addresses a personal characteristic you may have, wish to have, or want more of. Many affirmations also include content that prompts your mind to ponder the characteristic in self-reflection.
This process will help you experience the greatest benefits from reading affirmations:
1. Make an effort to clear your mind before reading an affirmation. Ensure you have enough time, like 15 minutes or so, to read, process, and reflect on the affirmation. Then, read through the affirmation.
2. Are you familiar with all the words used in the affirmation? If not, look up any questionable words. Think about how these words relate to the topic.
3. Re-state the affirmation in your own words. This step increases your understanding and retention of the content as your mind mulls over the concepts.
You could say something like, “I think this affirmation is describing the best ways to talk about your feelings with another person. It focuses on being honest and not being afraid to share how you really feel.”
4. Endeavor to apply the affirmation to yourself. Do you behave, think, or feel as the affirmation suggests?
If you identify that you already handle the subject matter as it’s portrayed in the affirmation, then the affirmation confirms this quality in your mind and helps boost your self-confidence.
If you believe you respond in less than positive ways to the situations described, what can you learn from the affirmation?
Reflect on the positive methods in the affirmation to help develop those methods in your own life. Strive to apply the information in similar situations in the future.
5. Recognize that an important function of an affirmation is to encourage you to look within yourself. Effective affirmations usually state you’re skilled at something or can emotionally deal with situations in healthy ways.
6. Achieve self-improvement with affirmations. For people like you, who seek to live the most fulfilling life possible, affirmations can provide an endless array of self-improvement topics upon which you can reflect.
Affirmations confirm the great qualities you already have and help you develop and strengthen the characteristics you want to add to your repertoire.
The combination of self-reflection and repetition enables the affirmation to reach your sub-conscious mind and changes your beliefs and actions, one thought at a time.
7. Discover new and exciting qualities about yourself. Because life is often a rocky pathway, engaging in ongoing self-discovery can help you better navigate the bumpy parts of your journey by figuring out things about your personal qualities and ways of relating.
When you use these strategies, you’ll not only discover new knowledge while reading affirmations, but you’ll also learn to apply the new information in your own life in ways that strengthen and benefit you.
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What’s so powerful about positive thinking?
Post by Larissa Qat
“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.”
We all sometimes feel that it’s so much easier to be pessimistic than to be optimistic, right? It’s easier to view the glass half empty instead of half full, to criticize and complain rather than expressing our appreciation and gratitude for everything that happens to us and all around us. Well, not anymore.
Positive thinking is undoubtedly, something that can have a great impact on a person. The difficulty lies in comprehending why positive thinking is so powerful. To do so involves taking a good look at how positive thinking works.
Positive thinking works in three different ways or three circles. The first circle involves you and your general attitude or perspective and you have total control over this as you can choose the reactions and thoughts that cross your mind. The second circle works on those around you, and you have great control over this as well, because you get to choose the people you surround yourself with so make sure to stay away from negative, pessimistic people. The third circle has a way of influencing your environment and we don’t have much control over this one as it involves things beyond our control and we have to accept them as they come, such as the weather and death. How exactly positive thinking works on these things is, open for debate, though.
Some people believe that positive thinking is related to karma. That what goes around comes around. Others believe that positive thinking is all in your head, a mental thing that triggers positive things. Whatever your beliefs are, it is hard to doubt that there is power in positive thinking.
Once you start to implement positive thinking in your life, you will feel the immense impact of its practice. It has a way of changing your entire outlook on life. You will start to find the good in things and that will inherently make you happy. You will be less likely to feel down and instead you will allow positive thinking to guide you to happy thoughts.
It can even be contagious! Other people can be greatly influenced by your positive thinking. Many people can sense your positive attitude and will treat you in a positive way. People who are usually rude or indifferent might start being nice or pay you more attention. Those who spend a lot of time with you will begin to be affected by your actions. They might start to offer you help when needed, to do nice gestures, and even smile more. However, just because you are thinking positively doesn’t guarantee that all things will begin to happen your way automatically.
When you begin to see situations positively, your environment will begin to morph around you because you see it through a different lens. You will start to notice the little things more than ever before and that will have a positive effect on your daily attitude and life. Your self-confidence will build up as positive thinking will allow you to believe in yourself and that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. You will add new tasks to your goal list and reach them simply because you believe that you can. No negative thoughts will hold you back.
Little effort is required to start turning all your thoughts and ideas into positive thoughts and ideas. It is up to you to start pushing the negativity out of your head and let positive thoughts guide you. When you find your thoughts drifting into the negative, only you can bring yourself back to a positive state. It takes some time, but begin to train your mind to always see the glass half full, that everything happens for a reason, to focus on what you want rather than on what you don’t want, that every problem comes with a lesson, and to learn to be present in everything you do.
Positive thinking has a power that is unlike any other. It is something that will not be restrained once it is unleashed. It will have such a great impact on you and your life that you will wonder how you ever lived before putting it to work in your life.
5 Exercises to Find Peace in Your Life
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Doug Foresta
- What is it you want to do with your life?
- How do you think you’re going to make it happen?
- If you’re not sure, then self-reflection is in order.
Even if you have an idea where you want to go, you may want to consider doing self-reflection exercises to ensure that you remain on the path toward success.
When you are on the right path, you can also find peace in your life.
Here are 5 self-reflection exercises that you can use to put things into perspective. These exercises can help you to clear your mind, relax, and find that peace you crave:
1. Compose affirmations. Write a list of at least 50 affirmations. These affirmations should embrace what you want to achieve and what you want to become in your life.
- Write them in present tense and be sure to use the word “I” throughout the list. For example, “I am always good at my job.”
- It is important to focus on the things that are occurring now that will lead to your future success.
You may hear words in your head such as, “But you messed this up the other day” or “You weren’t as productive a few days ago.” If you are hearing things like this, then banish those negative thoughts. It can take some time to get used to positive thinking, but it’ll be time well-spent.
- Repeating your affirmations aloud will enable you to reprogram your mind with positive thoughts.
2. Tap into your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is where your self-image is stored. All of your attitudes, experiences, beliefs, and values are here.
Your subconscious mind is the core of who you are and it’s a very powerful force.
If you go inward and reflect upon what’s inside this storehouse within the mind, you can gain a better sense of self-awareness. Some may call this meditation. Regardless of what you call it, this process helps you to attain a higher level of consciousness.
- Better self-awareness can provide you with many answers about yourself and your true beliefs.
3. Visualize creatively. This is a fun way to self-reflect! Make yourself a box to show your hopes and dreams. Or you can create a vision board. Place pictures and words that represent you and your thoughts into your box or on your board. The more details you include, the better it works!
- Imagination is the key and the sky is the limit!
4. Ask yourself questions. Ask yourself questions about yourself. Write down your questions and your answers. Ask yourself questions about the present and the future and provide yourself with positive answers. You can be creative with your questions because only you know what’s inside of you.
- Be sure to structure your questions to include details about your hopes and dreams.
5. Write and reflect. Purchase a journal and write in that journal every single day.
- Each day, first write down something positive that occurred that day.
- Next, write down a question for yourself.
- Don’t answer that question then and there.
- Reflect on that question and write your answer the next day as a part of your journal entry.
As you can see, self-reflection truly is an art. It involves tapping your inner being and using that to figure out what it is you really want. In time, your reflections will enable you to achieve the peace and serenity you deserve.
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METHODS (THE “HOW”) VERSUS RESULTS (THE “WHAT”)
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Justin Honaman
Your method or process of getting things done is as important, if not more important, than the end result. When you rely on others to accomplish results, the process you use, the actions you take, and the communication style you utilize – all speak of you, and therefore your personal brand. Often, up-and-coming leaders fail early in their career due to a lack of focus on the methods they use to drive results. They often leave shattered relationships, broken individuals, burnt-out team members, and an overall bad taste in the mouths of work colleagues.
When you are simply checking boxes and moving so fast that you are running over your team in order to accomplish results, you risk losing their future support. In the corporate world, this means recognizing that finance, supply chain, marketing, operations, human resources, and legal teams (to name a few) are there to support you on the project or sales team. They will operate even more effectively with you if you treat them with respect and appreciation throughout the process of getting things done. This approach is the only way to get things done in the long-term. In the short-term, investing in relationships that are founded on communication, collaboration, and trust is the best way to ensure that the process moves efficiently. This ensures that hand-offs take place quickly and that there is full alignment on the approach to getting things done. If you burn out your support teams and sever relationships with individuals over one project, don’t expect them to be there for you on the next one.
First impressions can make or break a deal. If your expectations for others are all about the results as opposed to the people and process needed to get there, you will ultimately fail within a large organization. Your actions and behaviors will be remembered and shared with others. And your ultimate career path within an organization may be limited based on how you treat others along the way.
BRINGING IT TO LIFE
Check Yourself: The best way to know how you are doing is to ask others. What would you improve? What would you change? What could you modify to ensure the long-term success of relationships that make business happen? Do your team and your support organization feel part of the process – part of your team? Are they actively engaged in meetings, discussions, and working sessions? Do they openly offer their ideas and opinions to you? Are you open to listening? Do others think you are?
Celebrate Wins: The best way to show others how much you appreciate them is to celebrate wins together. Winning fuels momentum. And recognizing great effort is a way to fuel your team and the larger organization. As a leader, recognizing methods as wins is as important as recognizing the achievement of the end result. If you, as the leader, highlight best practices in process, approach, and methodology, others will understand, recognize, and follow. Highlight extraordinary performance in global communications and messages, detailing the specific business challenge addressed, actions taken, and the qualitative and quantitative results achieved. Recognize extraordinary support in a project, pursuit, or initiative. The simple act of publicly recognizing extraordinary performance is an inexpensive method to reward and encourage.
Bottom Line: How you choose to get it done may matter more than what you get done.
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What is the impact of the digital divide?
Guest post by Learn It Live Expert, Sarah Newton
What is the digital divide? The term is used to describe an economic inequality between groups, where some have access to information and communication technologies and others don’t. But it’s also used to describe the knowledge gap between parents and their children.
The gaps created by inadequate infrastructure and a lack of basic knowledge about the digital world are two major obstacles to genuine mass connectivity. In Britain, more and more of us have internet access every day. But late adopters don’t always have the knowledge they need to use the internet to its full extent.
The impact of the digital divide on British families
Research by Nominet reveals that younger parents aged 18-35 tend to be more aware of the online world than older parents. It makes sense; since the mid-1990s the internet has revolutionised almost every aspect of our culture, with near-instant communication, interactive video communications, discussion forums, blogs, social networks and ecommerce. And just like the mobile phone, early adopters tended to be younger, leaving older generations behind.
As such, some parents have been left stranded. Their children know a great deal more about how to drive a computer, tablet, laptop or smartphone than they do. Today’s children and teenagers have grown up with digital technologies, and they take to new developments perfectly naturally, accepting them as the norm and often leaving their parents behind.
The knowledge gap between parents and children
Children’s online lives are often a complete mystery to their parents. This can pose problems, because unless you have the knowledge, you can’t keep your children safe.
It’s difficult to keep your children secure when you don’t understand what they’re doing online. But once you understand the basics of cyberbullying, you can spot the signs. When you understand netspeak, you can keep an eye on your children’s online activities and stop potential abuse in its tracks. When you know how a computer works, you can make sure the family’s machines are set up to minimise the risk of ID theft, scammers and computer viruses.
Teen socialising in a completely different world
Before the net, it was easier to keep tabs on what your teenagers were up to. Now they can get into trouble without even leaving the house. Cyberbullying has changed the face of bullying forever, driving it underground onto social networks. Email means that anyone who gets hold of your teen’s email address can send them messages. So much of children’s lives is digital, which by nature is more secretive and private, less open and obvious than ‘real’ life.
The language bit
One of the most profound effects of the digital divide is the use of netspeak, or text speak. Teens use it to communicate faster, more easily, privately and in a way many of them feel is ‘cool’. Another key survey by Nominet revealed that 81% of teens aged between 13 and 18 use netspeak regularly. 86% of the teens surveyed said they used it because it’s easy to type or text, 41% because their friends do, 25% because it’s ‘cool’, and 12% said they use it because it’s the way they speak in ‘real’ life.
10-12 year olds seem to be more influenced by their peers than teenagers, with 60% of pre-teen children using shortened words because their friends do, compared to just 24% of 16-18 year olds who use it because of peer pressure.
Netspeak is great fun, and the ability to communicate so quickly and efficiently translates perfectly online. As a parent, it’s helpful to know the most popular terms so that you can help keep your teen safe and communicate with them on their terms… although many teens find it horribly embarrassing when their parents try to join in!
It has never been so easy to make friends, which comes with risks as well as advantages. Teens can hook up with new ‘friends’ in seconds, at the click of a button, without meeting in person, which is a fantastic thing. Whereas their parents are likely to be more circumspect. The digital divide highlights the profound social differences of pre- and post-net socialising, which also divides the generations even though late adopters are coming on board all the time.
Filming your big night out
The digital divide also marks profound differences in the way we experience entertainment. Take a look at Glastonbury photos from five years ago and you’ll see crowds of people watching bands play. Look at this year’s images and you’ll see thousands of people filming gigs on their smartphones rather than watching the action.
Teens see their gadgets as extensions of themselves, and it’s changing the way we behave in all sorts of ways. Take manners, in the news recently as supermarket checkout staff refused to serve a woman while she was on her mobile. Many teens are perfectly comfortable using their phones in cinemas, theatres, restaurants and when they’re with their friends, which is often seen as rude by older people.
Netiquette is constantly evolving, with highly public discussions about when it’s okay to use gadgets and when it’s considered polite to switch off. Millions of teens regularly multi-task, texting and playing online while watching TV or while chatting with friends. And there’s some evidence that many teenagers aren’t getting the sleep they need because their phones wake them up at all hours with messages and updates. The teen and adult worlds have never been so different.
Closing the digital divide
As older generations die out and younger generations age, the digital divide will close. As more older people get on board, they will help close the gap between those who are immersed in the digital world and those who live outside it. Nobody can predict how things will end up. But one thing is certain – there’s more change on the horizon.
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